Hayden on girls

Monday night Thomas and I were talking to Hayden about how girls are different than boys. We were using different examples to illustrate this point to Hayden.

A couple of weeks back, Hayden said to Brooklyn as she picked up Talmage, "He doesn't want you, he wants Jodi". Brooklyn cried and asked why Hayden didn't think Talmage liked her. Hayden said, "I didn't say Talmage doesn't like you, I said he wants his mom." Poor Brooklyn, maybe taking after her Aunt Jer some, said, "No you didn't, you meant he didn't like me."

Thomas explained that girls are more emotional and Hayden said, "Oh, you mean they are more sensitive, right?" We explained to him how Heavenly Father made his daughters different than his sons. And, although Heavenly Father loves all of us, he is more sensitive to his daughters needs and their feelings. We explained how that sensitivity made girls good moms. Hayden wanted to know if him being kinder to girls, meant he would have the Holy Ghost with him more. (As a side note, that is Hayden's main goal in life is to feel the Holy Ghost and have his constant companionship).

We used this to try and explain to Hayden that boys take what you say at face value. Girls sometimes read more in to what you say. He was SHOCKED! He said, "Does mom do that?" Thomas replied, "Yes! When you tell mom you don't like what she is wearing, yes, you might as well have said mom isn't pretty." Hayden's mouth dropped. He was dumbfounded that girls do that. We told him that you have to be more careful what you say and how you say things to girls instead of boys.

He asked if this was something all guys knew. We said, yeah, but most learn after they get in trouble or have been married for a while. He then replied, "How will this help me if I learn this now?" Thomas says, "Buddy, you will be friends with all kinds of people. The girls will want to be around you because you are sensitive. And, the guys will want to hang around you because the girls are your friends." Hayden says, I want classes in how to treat girls so I can have lots of friends.

Have I mentioned lately how much I love this age? Hayden is a sheer crack up!